@Laurens I do plan on ceasing my business with Home Depot, very overpriced and questionable quality.
Tip wear is horrible with my current solder. I make my own iron tips with 1/4" copper tubing and other copper objects (mostly wire) filed into shape. Probably monthly I have to file down my tips and re-tin them because they become cup-shaped from wear. When I inevitably file the tip down to an unusably short length I will just make myself another one.
I set the iron to 350C, though I do not have much faith in the thermal accuracy of my cheap Chinese iron. I just adjusted it to melt solder reasonably quickly without boiling the flux instantly.
The likely reason I need so much flux is because of my soldering technique, which I do realize is unusual. I use a tip that is a little less than 1/4" diameter, put a big drop of solder on the tip, then use what is on the tip to solder. I often don't have the free hands (or coordination) to hold the iron in one hand and the solder in the other hand while holding the object to be soldered. This probably causes me to need more flux because of the time between melting solder and getting the solder to the joint.
I have repaired old equipment with lead-free solder, and I am just now realizing that might not be a great idea to mix solders like that. I also use a desoldering technique that may or may not get solder blobs
everywhere.

It is looking like I need to improve my setup!